I’ve noticed a growing trend in psychotherapy where people often confuse self-care with selfishness. While it’s true that we can’t pour from an empty vessel, this doesn’t mean that once we fill our own cup, we should ignore the needs of others.
Meditation and self-reflection are practices through which we seek guidance, healing, and support, recharging ourselves spiritually, mentally, and physically. Different cultures and belief systems describe this process as opening ourselves to the Divine Energy Flow, breathing in the Holy Spirit, allowing Chi to circulate through our entire being, or letting Divine Light radiate from our hearts to others.
O SON OF SPIRIT!
I created thee rich, why dost thou bring thyself down to poverty? Noble I made thee, wherewith dost thou abase thyself? Out of the essence of knowledge I gave thee being, why seekest thou enlightenment from anyone beside Me? Out of the clay of love I molded thee, how dost thou busy thyself with another? Turn thy sight unto thyself, that thou mayest find Me standing within thee, mighty, powerful and self-subsisting.
The Hidden Words of Bahá’u’lláh
From the Arabic
However, this doesn’t mean we should become fixated on ourselves, dwell in the past, or remain trapped in the stories we’ve built around our struggles. Self-care isn’t about endlessly replaying past trauma or focusing solely on our own pain while neglecting those around us. It’s about tapping into the Healing Energy that allows us to stay open, calm, and present—helping us process past wounds, release old burdens, and heal from past trauma. This same energy enables us to be fully present for others, supporting them on their own healing journeys.
This process of growth, healing, and connection not only elevates our individual consciousness but also strengthens the collective spirit, allowing us to face future challenges with resilience while staying grounded and aligned with the greater flow of life.
Focusing on our own physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health is vital, and there should never be guilt attached to it. But once we are in a place where we can help others, it’s just as important to extend our care and support, helping lift them along the way.
By: Firoozeh Bowden