Financial Literacy: Walking the Spiritual Life With Practical Feet

Understanding the Baha’i writings requires literacy—and living in this material world requires financial literacy.

But financial literacy is taught rarely in schools. Here’s a financial literacy quiz—try to answer these three simple questions about personal finance:

1. Do you think that the following statement is true or false? Buying (a) a single company stock usually provides a safer return than (b) a stock mutual fund.

2. Suppose you had $100 in a savings account and the interest rate was 2% per year. After 5 years, how much do you think you would have in the account if you left the money to grow: (a) more than $102, (b) exactly $102, or (c) less than $102?

3. Imagine that the interest rate on your savings account was 1% per year and inflation was 2% per year. After one year, would you be able to buy (a) more than, (b) exactly the same as, or (c) less than today with the money in this account?

The correct answers are 1b, 2a and 3c. How did you do on the quiz?

You might be surprised, then, to learn that very few people follow these three basic financial recommendations: paying off debts in a timely manner, budgeting and living within one’s means, and setting aside savings for retirement. In surveys, only 25% of respondents knew the correct answer to those three simple questions—and only 3% followed the basic financial recommendations. How can we remedy these low levels of financial knowledge and behavior?

The Baha’i teachings have answers; and those answers focus on engaging in productive work, practicing economy and paying off debts:

Trust in God and engage in your work and practice economy; the confirmations of God shall descend and you will be enabled to pay off your debts. – Abdu’l-BahaBaha’i World Faith, p. 375.

Every person must have an occupation, a trade or a craft, so that he may carry other people’s burdens, and not himself be a burden to others. – Abdu’l-Baha, from a tablet to an individual Baha’i.

The Baha’i teachings ask us to avoid the lure of riches and be content with what we have:

O Son of Being! Busy not thyself with this world, for with fire We test the gold, and with gold We test Our servants. – Baha’u’llahThe Hidden Words, p. 16.

Put away all covetousness and seek contentment; for the covetous hath ever been deprived, and the contented hath ever been loved and praised. – Ibid., p. 39.

Of course, not everyone understands the ins and outs of modern finance, which means we need to ensure that our financial advisors are trustworthy and have no conflicts of interest:

He must not rely implicitly upon the opinion of any man without investigation; nay, each soul must seek intelligently and independently, arriving at a real conclusion and bound only by that reality. – Abdu’l-BahaThe Promulgation of Universal Peace, p. 288.

Generally, the Baha’i teachings recommend a spiritual solution to the world’s economic problems that goes beyond materialistic considerations, and envision a unified future state of society where everyone will prosper:

… there will be a readjustment in the economic conditions of mankind so that in the future there will not be the abnormally rich nor the abject poor. The rich will enjoy the privilege of this new economic condition as well as the poor, for owing to certain provisions and restrictions they will not be able to accumulate so much as to be burdened by its management, while the poor will be relieved from the stress of want and misery. The rich will enjoy his palace, and the poor will have his comfortable cottage. – Abdu’l-BahaThe Promulgation of Universal Peace, p. 132.

These Baha’i teachings on economics have a singular goal—that no human being will be destitute:

First and foremost is the [Baha’i] principle that to all the members of the body politic shall be given the greatest achievements of the world of humanity. Each one shall have the utmost welfare and well-being. … This system is all thus ordered so that in the village the very poor will be comfortable, the orphans will live happily and well; in a word, no one will be left destitute. All the individual members of the body politic will thus live comfortably and well. – Abdu’l-BahaThe Promulgation of Universal Peace, p. 312.

Two hurdles need to be overcome for all humanity to learn financial literacy. First, we need to increase the general level of knowledge about financial affairs; and second, we need to increase the desire to learn. Of those who shun financial matters, spiritual people might be at the forefront. But it doesn’t have to be that way. The Baha’i Faithdoes not oppose wealth or financial security—in fact, wealth is encouraged providing it is used to achieve spiritual goals and not selfish desires:

Wealth is praiseworthy in the highest degree, if it is acquired by an individual’s own efforts and the grace of God, in commerce, agriculture, art and industry, and if it be expended for philanthropic purposes. – Abdu’l-BahaThe Secret of Divine Civilization, p. 24.

The opinions and views expressed in this article are those of the author only and do not necessarily reflect the opinion of BahaiTeachings.org or any institution of the Baha’i Faith.

4 Ways to Stop Violence against Women and Girls

4 Ways to Stop Violence against Women and Girls

David Langness

Soon men will have to acknowledge women as their equals and there will be no need to struggle for their rights. – Abdu’l-BahaStar of the West, Volume 2, p. 5.

In November of 2012, the Baha’i International Community contributed four specific recommendations to the 57th Session of the U.N.’s Commission on the Status of Women, as part of its larger statement called Towards the Eradication of Violence Against Women and Girls:

Prevailing conceptions of power and empowerment need to be redefined. The 2006 ‘In-depth study on all forms of violence against women’ stated that “structural imbalances of power and inequality between women and men are both the context and causes of violence against women.” Yet an improved balance of power will not suffice. The very conception of power needs to be seriously questioned and fundamentally redefined. Prevailing notions of power tend to focus on the ability to compete effectively, to dominate, and to gain ascendancy over others. These essentially adversarial expressions of power do not provide society with the tools needed to create institutions and processes that foster the progress of all members of the community. The dominant thinking of power as ‘power over’ must be replaced with the concept of ‘power to’—power as a capacity of the individual or of the collective. We need a broadened appreciation of the sources of power available to humanity, such as power that comes from the bonds of solidarity and mutual concern, and power that emanates from unity of thought and action, and the promotion of such qualities as justice, honesty, and integrity.

The Commission has repeatedly noted that the empowerment of women and girls is key to protecting their human rights and breaking the cycle of violence. Empowerment is a process of recognition, capacity building and action. Individuals become empowered as they come to recognize their inherent worth, the fundamental equality of all human beings, and their ability to improve their own condition and that of the wider society. At the collective level, empowerment involves the transformation of relationships of dominance into relationships of equality and mutuality.

The role of men in addressing this violence and exploitation has been recognized as a key aspect of prevention. Men and boys must be encouraged to speak out strongly against violence and exploitation and not to protect perpetrators. They must make a conscious effort to understand fully the principle of the equality of women and men and its expression in both private and public life. At home, men must come to understand their role in modeling healthy relations and respect for male and female members of the family. It is often in the home that boys and girls first learn about the nature of power and how it is expressed. Distorted expressions of power and authority promote in children attitudes and habits that are carried to the workplace, to the community, and to public life.

The international community and the State must shift from reactive approaches to ones that focus on prevention of violence.  Prevention must begin by identifying and addressing the underlying causes of the violence rather than its symptoms. Efforts aims at prevention must consider the prevailing conceptions of gender identity and of power, and the forms of discrimination and disadvantage that place women and girls at risk of violence. While States have initiated various prevention programs, these have been hampered by an overall lack of societal transformation. Such transformation involves changes at the level of attitudes, culture, community life, as well as in the structures that sustain and normalize violence and exploitation. To date, the majority of prevention activity has been carried out by civil society organizations, with limited resources. States need to assume greater responsibility for the implementation of policies and programmes that such transformation requires and support the initiatives of civil society. In addition, more research is needed to determine strategies to prevent violence against girls and women in States that are fragile or in the midst of conflict or post-conflict recovery.

One approach towards social transformation is through the education and training of children and youth in a manner that cultivates in them a sense of dignity as well as responsibility for the well-being of their family members and for the wider community. Drawing on the experiences of the worldwide Baha’i community in promoting social transformation, we note a number of elements in educational endeavors that support such transformation: a conviction that happiness and honor lie in integrity; the ability to act with moral courage; the ability to participate in non-adversarial decision-making; a degree of excellence in a productive skill through which one can meet one’s needs with dignity; the ability to analyze social conditions and understand the forces that shape them; the ability to express ideas eloquently and wisely; the capacity to foster collaboration; and an emphasis on service to the community. While emphasis must continue to be placed on girls’ access to quality education, due attention must be given to the education of boys particularly with respect to issues of gender equality.

No custom, tradition, or religious interpretation that sanctions any form of violence against women and girls should be allowed to outweigh the obligation to eradicate violence against women and girls. The regrettable practice of hiding behind cultural and religious traditions that permit violence against women perpetuates a climate of legal and moral impunity.  The responsibility of States to protect women and girls from violence must take precedence over any such customs.  Religious leaders, who play an instrumental role in shaping attitudes and beliefs, must also support unequivocally the principle of the equality of women and men.  Practices and doctrines which condone or promote violence against women and girls need to be eliminated.  It must also be remembered that all religions contain the voices of women. Too often, due to ignorance, lack of education or lack of opportunity to be heard, the views of women have been absent from the definition of what religion is and how its teachings bear on public and private life.

States must take comprehensive measures to eradicate the culture of impunity.  The individual, her family and her community are under the protection of the State. Yet, a culture of impunity persists in many territories: perpetrators of violence against and exploitation of women and girls go unpunished (or inadequately punished). The victims of such acts have little or no means of redress and or access to support services. More needs to be done to prevent the violence and exploitation of women and girls. All too often, for example, inadequate resources are allocated to implement laws that protect women and specialized services for victims do not exist. In many cases of violence and abuse, the web of actors is extensive and the pressures to remain silent about the abuse are strong. Penalties for perpetrators must be accompanied by measures to ensure the security of victims, who often need protection from retribution. The incorporation of commitments made in [United Nations] Security Council resolutions related to women, peace and security, into national action plans has been a positive step in this regard.

Read the entire Baha’i statement.

The opinions and views expressed in this article are those of the author only and do not necessarily reflect the opinion of BahaiTeachings.org or any institution of the Baha’i Faith.

On 200th anniversary of birth of founder, Bahá’ís continue embracing Oneness of Mankind

Farid Rohani: On 200th anniversary of birth of founder, Bahá’ís continue embracing Oneness of Mankind

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By Farid Rohani

Quietly all around the world, one of our religious communities, the Bahá’ís, is going about celebrating the 200th anniversary of the birth of the founder, Bahá’u’lláh, and his forerunner, the Bab.

The principle of the Oneness of Mankind—the central theme around which the Bahai faithis established and around which all the teachings of Bahá’u’lláh revolve—is not seen by the millions that follow him as a mere expression of simple naivete or an expression of ambiguous hope.

The interest and the appeal it evokes is not to be seen, moreover, as a revival of movements that were inexperienced with aspiring ideals of kinship and altruism.

Bahá’ís are not aiming to simply forge feel-good harmonious cooperation among individual peoples and nations, either. The principles put forward by Bahaullah are global in scope with real-world applications.

The message of the Bahaullah is not only to be viewed as addressed to the individual, but focuses on a retooling of the way nations deal with matters that affect us as citizens of a global country and bind all the states and nations as members of one human family.

The Bahá’ís principles do not present old ideas in a new language, nor do they rearticulate failed approaches. Rather, Bahaullah plainly puts forward new paths that imply a fundamental change in our approach to find solutions to issues that keep reappearing.

As an example, it is accepted that conflict is a natural part of our existence. Individuals and groups get ahead when they are able to gain an advantage.

Interests, therefore, clash. People work against each other; the same thing occurs in different societies and at a higher level among nations. Our personal interests have conditioned us to work against each other.

The concepts of a gladiator competition and confrontation have become norms embedded in our sociopolitical world and by extension, and most importantly, in our economic principles. Hence, power and as much of it as possible are viewed as required to protect our advantages.

In a culture rooted in conflict, Bahaullah instructs his followers to endeavour for cooperative collaboration to achieve principled goals. To find new structures and functioning of social institutions that do not consider the ways of conflict the natural expression of human existence.

Bahá’ís live the values of unity, in which diversity is viewed as a source of strength and not as a cause of conflict. The power of unity is directed toward the common purpose of building functioning inclusive communities.

Bahaullah put forward principles that 170 years ago were revolutionary for their time and caused tremendous hardship, exile, and the deaths of tens of thousands of his followers. Yet more and more people saw the wisdom in his teachings and we are now seeing them implemented and adopted around the world.

Some of these that were deemed revolutionary for their time include: the equality of the sexes, the independent investigation of truth, universal compulsory education, the adoption of an auxiliary world language, and the harmony of science and religion, to just name a few.

He’s put forward a template that is resolute, revolutionary, and presents a fundamental change in the structure of present-day thinking, a change the world has not yet experienced.

He calls for a change in our approach toward each other and the conflicts we face, and for humanity to throw away outworn principles nationalism, biases, tradition, and dogmas that have had their day and which must now be reworked within the framework of a more connected world, one where the actions or events in any single part can fundamentally alter life in other parts.

He writes that we have evolved as our thinking has expanded: from the earliest family units to tribal societies to the city-states, and further into independent and sovereign nations, empires, and now, he states clearly, it’s time for a global society and the principle of the Oneness of Mankind, the final stage in this astounding forward progress.

He tells his followers that “we live in a world organically unified in all the essential aspects of its life, our political machinery, our spiritual aspirations, our trade and finance, our script and languages, and yet infinite in the diversity of the national characteristics of its federated units”.

Such a spectacular forward-thinking conception put forward 170 years ago by Bahaullah, in what was one of the most backward countries at the time, finds its earliest application in the efforts purposefully applied. Since then, the humble successes accomplished by the millions who follow his teachings are spread all over the world, with no clergy to guide them and no churches or mosques to dictate their actions.

Bahaullah urges his followers to remember that human beings are noble by nature; many simply allow themselves to fall into negative patterns of behaviour unconsciously.

Bahaullah, the followers believe, set in motion “a dynamic process, divinely propelled, possessed of undreamed-of potentialities, world-embracing in scope, world-transforming in its ultimate consequences”.

In every corner of the world, Bahá’ís of every race, religion, nationality, and class are focusing their energies toward the progress of their societies. Individuals with different perspectives are replacing contention and self-served objectives with consultation and the collective search for solutions.

And on the 200th anniversary of Baha’u’llah’s birth, the many who are part of this enterprise are reaching out to those around them with a simple invitation: seize this opportunity to find out who He was and what He represents. Put to the test the remedy He has prescribed.

Farid Rohani is a Metro Vancouver member of the Bahá’í community of Canada.
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I’d Like to Introduce You to Baha’u’llah

 I’d Like to Introduce You to Baha’u’llah

 

Baha’is believe that God has addressed humanity through a sequential series of divine messengers and prophets—and that the latest one, Baha’u’llah, was born 200 years ago.

On October 22, 1817, a newborn named Mirza Husayn Ali came into the world. The son of a notable landowner and provincial governor of Persia named Abbas Nuri Mirza Buzurg and his wife, Khadijih Khanum, this infant had a remarkable lineage. Descended from both the prophet Abraham through his wife Keturah and from Zoroaster, the founder of Zoroastrianism, his ancestry also traced back through the line of Persia’s ancient Sassanian kings, who ruled their extensive pre-Muslim Empire for centuries.

From the time of his early childhood, prominent figures in the Persian government and clergy expected Mirza Husayn Ali to do great things. Many reached that conclusion because, although he never attended any school, he seemed to possess a preternatural intelligence and extraordinary powers of perception from his earliest ages. At the age of seven, for example, he appeared before the court of the Shah to argue a legal case on behalf of his father—and won.

Mirza Husayn Ali grew up in relative luxury, accustomed to the environs of the royal court. When his father died in 1839, he was only 22 years old—but he was offered his father’s former post in the royal court. He refused the appointment, and the Grand Vizier reportedly said:

“Mirza Husayn-Ali was intended for a work of greater magnitude, and the arena of government was too small a field for his capacities.” – H.M. Balyuzi, Baha’u’llah, p. 10.

Instead of pursuing the lucrative political career his government offered him, Mirza Husayn Ali had already turned his attention toward the pressing social problems he wanted to address—chiefly the poverty and privation that surrounded him in Tehran, Persia’s capital.

When his father passed away, Baha’u’llah freed his father’s indentured servants; and then opened his large home to feed and house the poor and homeless. He and his wife Navvab soon became known throughout the country as “The Father of the Poor” and “The Mother of Consolation” for their kindness, altruism and philanthropy.

One prominent Persian described Mirza Husayn Ali this way:

“He is one of the noble class, but above all ostentation, seldom attending stately functions. Extremely wealthy, but caring naught for luxury and sumptuous faring. Full of a marvellous wisdom is he, yet he has never been instructed of men, even when a young boy, not consenting to receive lessons from the usual teachers of youth. He is the helper of all in need of succour. A refuge for those in sorrowful weariness; a comfort to all the afflicted. A strong champion of those who suffer wrong. to the shelter of his house all who hunger or thirst are warmly welcomed. His hospitality is given freely to every comer. His doors are always opened to the friendless, and his heart to every tale of grief.

The people say: He refuses all the lucrative posts which are offered to him; surely even his wealth must diminish, if he despises all means of adding to it, whilst he continues to bestow his goods so lavishly on these worthless poor creatures.” – quoted by Lady Blomfield in The Chosen Highway, p. 23.

Mirza Husayn Ali’s daughter, Bahiyyih Khanum, later recounted that period of her mother’s and father’s life like this:

Bahiyyih Khanum

Bahiyyih Khanum

“Even in the early years of their married life, they, my father and mother, took part as little as possible in State functions, social ceremonies, and the luxurious habits of ordinary highly-placed and wealthy families in the land of Persia; she, and her noble-hearted husband, counted these worldly pleasures meaningless, and preferred rather to occupy themselves in caring for the poor, and for all who were unhappy, or in trouble.

From our doors nobody was ever turned away; the hospitable board was spread for all comers.

Constantly the poor women came to my mother, to whom they poured out their various stories of woe, to be comforted and consoled by her loving helpfulness.” – Ibid., p. 40.

But then, in 1844, when Mirza Husayn Ali was just a young man of 27, everything began to change. A revolutionary, charismatic new religion rose up in the midst of Persia’s very traditional and hidebound Muslim culture and proclaimed its advent, led by The Bab(which means The Gate). Mirza Husayn Ali recognized its mystical truths and became a Babi.

This new prophet, The Bab, with his role as the herald and forerunner of “Him whom God shall make manifest,” assured his followers that soon the “Promised One of All Ages” and “the Glory of God” would emerge, bringing an entirely new global Faith. The Bab counseled all people to “seek the presence of its author:”

Whenever ye learn that a new Cause hath appeared, ye must seek the presence of its author and must delve into his writings that haply ye may not be debarred from attaining unto Him Whom God shall make manifest at the hour of His manifestation. – The BabSelections from the Writings of the Bab, p. 144.

Although they never met in person, the Bab wrote to Mirza Husayn Ali and began referring to him as Baha’u’llah (which means the Glory of God). That title, given by one prophet to his successor, became the basis for the name Baha’i—a follower of Baha’u’llah, and a lover of the Glory of God.

The opinions and views expressed in this article are those of the author only and do not necessarily reflect the opinion of BahaiTeachings.org or any institution of the Baha’i Faith.

Fulfilling the Prophecies of Judaism and Christianity

Fulfilling the Prophecies of Judaism and Christianity

Peter Terry

Baha’u’llah, the prophet and founder of the Baha’i Faith, claimed to fulfill the ancient prophecies of both Judaism and Christianity.

Shoghi Effendi, the Guardian of the Baha’i Faith, referred to Baha’u’llah’s claim in several places:

Addressing the Jewish people Baha’u’llah has written: “The Most Great Law is come, and the Ancient Beauty ruleth upon the throne of David. Thus hath My Pen spoken that which the histories of bygone ages have related. At this time, however, David crieth aloud and saith: ‘O my loving Lord! Do Thou number me with such as have stood steadfast in  Thy Cause, O Thou through Whom the faces have been illumined, and the footsteps have slipped!’” – The Promised Day is Come, pp. 76-77.

To the Jewish people, He, moreover, announced that the Most Great Law has come, that “the Ancient Beauty [Baha’u’llah] ruleth upon the throne of David,” Who cries aloud and invokes His Name, that “from Zion hath appeared that which was hidden,” and that “from Jerusalem is heard the Voice of God, the One, the Incomparable, the Omniscient.” – God Passes By, p. 211.

Nor can we fail to note the progressive deterioration in the authority, wielded by the ecclesiastical leaders of the Jewish and Zoroastrian Faiths, ever since the voice of Baha’u’llah was raised, announcing, in no uncertain terms, that the “Most Great Law is come,” that the Ancient Beauty “ruleth upon the throne of David,” and that “whatsoever hath been announced in the Books (Zoroastrian Holy Writ) hath been revealed and made clear.” – Ibid., p. 230.

Shoghi Effendi also cited those famous passages in the book of Isaiah:

No less enthralling is the vision of Isaiah, the greatest of the Hebrew Prophets, predicting, as far back as twenty five hundred years ago, the destiny which mankind must, at its stage of maturity, achieve: “And He (the Lord) shall judge among the nations, and shall rebuke many people: and they shall beat their swords into plowshares, and their spears into pruning-hooks: nation shall not lift up sword against nation, neither shall they learn war any more …” [Isaiah 2:4] “And there shall come forth a rod out of the stem of Jesse, and a Branch shall grow out of his roots … And he shall smite the earth with the rod of his mouth, and with the breath of his lips shall he slay the wicked. And righteousness shall be the girdle of his loins, and faithfulness the girdle of his reins. The wolf also shall dwell with the lamb, and the leopard shall lie down with the kid; and the calf and the young lion and the fatling together … And the sucking child shall play on the hole of the asp, and the weaned child shall put his hand on the cockatrice’s den. They shall not hurt nor destroy in all my holy mountain: for the earth shall be full of the knowledge of the Lord, as the waters cover the sea.” – The World Order of Baha’u’llah, p. 205.

While Baha’u’llahAbdu’l-Baha and Shoghi Effendi often gave metaphorical interpretations of scriptural verses, in this case they all write in a boldly affirmative way about the actual genetic link between King David and Baha’u’llah:

He was moreover a descendant of Jesse …To Him Isaiah, the greatest of the Jewish prophets, had alluded as the “Glory of the Lord,”[6:3, 10:16, 35:2, 40:5, 58:8, 59:19, 60:1] the “Everlasting Father,” [9:6] the “Prince of Peace,” [9:6] the “Wonderful,” [9:6] the “Counsellor,” [9:6] the “Rod come forth out of the stem of Jesse” [11:1] and the “Branch grown out of His roots,” [11:1] Who “shall be established upon the throne of David,” [9:7] Who “will come with strong hand,” [40:10] Who “shall judge among the nations,” [2:4] Who “shall smite the earth with the rod of His mouth, and with the breath of His lips slay the wicked,” [11:4] and Who “shall assemble the outcasts of Israel, and gather together the dispersed of Judah from the four corners of the earth.” [11:12] Of Him David had sung in his Psalms, acclaiming Him as the “Lord of Hosts” and the “King of Glory.” – Shoghi EffendiGod Passes By, p. 94. (with scriptural references inserted in brackets)

So strong are the presumptions of those of Christian heritage that this claim couldn’t possibly apply to anyone besides Jesus, inasmuch as the gospels report so many persons having called Jesus “son of David.” He has been hailed as such for over two millennia, so many may still resist a genetic link between David and Baha’u’llah. Perhaps it was a Baha’i of Christian heritage who asked Shoghi Effendi to explain, no doubt once again, if this link is really physical. Shoghi Effendi directed his secretary to answer on his behalf:

Regarding your question concerning the Jesse from whom Baha’u’llah is descended: [Abdu’l-Baha] says in ‘Some Answered Questions’, referring to Isaiah, chapter 11, verses 1 to 10, that these verses apply ‘Word for word to Baha’u’llah.’ He then identifies this Jesse as the father of David in the following words: ‘… for Joseph was of the descendants of Jesse the father of David …’, thus identifying the Jesse of Isaiah, chapter 11, with being the father of David. Baha’u’llah is thus the descendant of Jesse, the father of David.

[Shoghi Effendi] hopes that this will clarify the matter for you. It is a tremendous and fascinating theme, Baha’u’llah’s connection with the Faith of Judaism, and one which possesses great interest to Jew and Christian alike. – From a letter written on behalf of Shoghi Effendi to an individual Baha’i, July 11, 1942.

Of course this raises an intriguing consideration: Baha’u’llah, the descendant of Sasanian kings of the Zoroastrian Faith, and more recently of a distinguished aristocratic family of Shi’i Muslim heritage, was also a Jew.

The opinions and views expressed in this article are those of the author only and do not necessarily reflect the opinion of BahaiTeachings.org or any institution of the Baha’i Faith.

UNDERSTANDING SOUL CONTRACTS: AGREEMENTS WE MADE BEFORE COMING TO EARTH

UNDERSTANDING SOUL CONTRACTS: AGREEMENTS WE MADE BEFORE COMING TO EARTH

Before we are born we are asked just one question by our soul family. “What is it you would like to learn this lifetime?” It is then, in our answer, that soul contracts are formed.

If we wish to learn patience, we will not ask to be surrounded by Zen Masters, but rather people (siblings for example) who will push our buttons and annoy us to the ends of the earth.

If we wish to learn love, we will be shown hate, and no matter the lesson, we ask that the opposite be brought to us for example, if self confidence is chosen, then friends in disguise will come and step on us.

It is within this very principle that all soul contracts are based, for it is only in being stepped on that we have no choice but to learn to STAND UP for ourselves.

Self development can be a deeply painful process that by nature requires us to be scrubbed. It is in the repetitive scrubbing of a diamond that it gains its sparkle and we are no different.

There are two kinds of pain, learning pain and abusive pain. While the latter serves little to no purpose, the former is fundamental to our growth as human beings.

Other than beginner’s luck, which (in my opinion) is the universes way of showing us that we can achieve a high level of success, with of course, practice; the first step to growth is being knocked off balance.

We get removed from center by ‘x’ amount which is directly proportionate to how much we have chosen to learn. It is through learning and growth that we come back to our center with the tools that were required to bring ourselves home.

The flip side of our return to balance is expressed directly as growth.

The universe in its infinite love for us will continue to send us lessons, and one of the most frustrating truths to accept is as follows: ‘Wow, you learned a lesson, you overcame a problem?

Congratulations, here is your reward… ANOTHER problem.’ Each time we show the universethat we can take the heat, life becomes a little hotter! It is simply one of the painful aspects to this path of learning, yet it is beautiful because of the growth we experience from it.

The main thing to remember here (going full circle) is that it is our friends who come to teach us these lessons. It is our soul friends who (by our consent) hurt us, our friends who betray us and our friends who give us our opportunities to learn.

In order for these experiences to seem real, we naturally forget that they are our friends when we cross over the river of forgetfulness (birth). If you would rather be happy than right, just pretend that they love you, it will definitely change your perspective!

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