If you are not happy being single, you will not be happy in a relationship

By Firoozeh Bowden, January 2019

Now that we have started a new year I would like to share something with my frustrated single friends who seem to end one relationship only to start another one that is very similar to the last one, and doomed to fail from the beginning!

Imagine if you lived and worked on the 15th floor of a high rise, and only had close contact with others who lived on your level. You saw others who lived above and bellow you on the same building come and go, but could not have any close contact with them. Our lives are very similar to this scenario. Perhaps if you take a look at the Vibration chart in Dr David Hawkins’ book “Power VS Force” that I will post below, it will become clearer.

We are all essentially energy, vibrating at different frequencies. Depending on our emotional state our vibration changes and can go up if we are joyful, exited or feel love, or go down if we feel rejected, angry, unlovable, etc. There is a vibration that ​each one of us​ tend to spend most of our time in during the day. That vibration is the floor where ​you​ reside in that imaginary high rise.

Most of your meaningful contacts and the ones who play a role in your life, have similar vibration to you. That is why it is extremely important to always be mindful of your mood and feelings. That is why we are told in the holy books to stay joyful regardless of our circumstances. Our vibration not only attracts certain people to us, but also determines the events in our lives. The universe wants to give us what we want. If we say I will never find happiness in my life or be successful, guess what the universe gives you? If you are positive and only project positive thoughts and plans for your future, and have total faith and trust, staying open, that is what you will receive.

So for someone who mistrusts others, is jealous, gets angry and violent, or likes being a victim, and in high drama, doesn’t it make sense that they would only attract the same kind of person to themselves over and over, unless they do some work on themselves, and learn to change their behavior and their outlook on life?

When we grow spiritually and permanently change our vibration, it is as if we move up to a higher level on that high rise. We also meet and attract healthier people who are more conscious of their behavior, and their thoughts. When two people who have done a lot of soul searching and released a lot of old baggage, and negative energy they have been caring around meet, it is like two peaces of puzzle coming together. There is no conflict or drama, no games, only total honesty and immense, true, everlasting. unconditional love. The reason this is so rare and hard to find for most people is because they have no clue how to get there. That is why I am sharing this with you.

Everyone wants to be loved, and be happy. Unfortunately most people have had bad role models, and examples of what a loving couple is. The secret is to improve ourselves first. I see a lot of people jump from one relationship to another without giving themselves anytime to reflect or heal. We all need some alone time after a relationship with a loved one ends to find ourselves again, and see where we are and what we want. Sometimes talking to a friend, a coach or a counselor helps to give you a better perspective.

So please take a look at the vibration chart, and even better, if you have time, read Dr Hawkins’ book “Power VS Force”, and stay mindful of the frequency of your vibration.

Good luck. May you find that wonderful unconditional love of your life. Firoozeh Bowden

P.S. These universal laws don’t just apply to single people. Anyone who is looking for peace, love, joy, etc in their life should be mindful of their vibration at all times.

​This is one of my favorite prayers that helps a lot at times of difficulty and crises ;

O God!
Refresh and gladden my spirit. Purify my heart. Illumine my powers. I lay all my affairs in Thy hand. Thou art my Guide and my Refuge. I will no longer be sorrowful and grieved; I will be a happy and joyful being. O God! I will no longer be full of anxiety, nor will I let trouble harass me. I will not dwell on the unpleasant things of life.
O God! Thou art more friend to me than I am to myself. I dedicate myself to Thee, O Lord.

‘Abdu’l-Bahá

The life of an Empath, and how to protect yourself, if you are one.

The only way Empaths can protect themselves from darkness, is to always stay connected to the inexhaustible Divine source of Light and Energy. When we embody the Divine light and shine out to all around us, not only do we help them out of darkness, but also prevent any darkness from reaching us. If Empaths try to protect themselves by shielding themselves, and building an armor around their heart, not only the negative energy, but also the Divine Light (that we all need to thrive) is prevented from getting in. Stay open, connected, and shine.

This is one of the very short prayers that helps me do that.

O God, guide me, protect me, make of me a shining lamp and a brilliant star. Thou art the Mighty and the Powerful. ‘Abdu’l-Bahá

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Many many years ago, I used to listen to Pink Floyd’s “…you missed the starting gun” lyrics, and wondered if there was a starting gun with which I should have started my race in life. A lot of my friends were married and having kids, or had successful Careers and loving relationships. Although I was very happy for them, it seemed like I was the only one missing out.

Now after all those years of trial and error, tears, prayer, meditation, workshops and webinars (as well as reading anything I could get my hands on), I finally know better. I realize now that all is as it should be. Every minute of our lives, and the experiences we have, help us grow spiritually and become less selfish, more compassionate, and kind.

Enlightened Consciousness

The ‘Muscle of the Soul’ may be Triggering Your Fear and Anxiety

The psoas major muscle (pronounced “so-as”) is often referred to as the deepest core, or as yoga therapist and film-maker Danielle Olson states, the “muscle of the soul.” This core-stabilizing muscle located near the hip bone affects mobility, structural balance, joint function, flexibility, and much more. In addition to its function to help keep the body upright and moving, the psoas is believed to allow you to connect with the present moment especially when it is stretched out and tension is released from the body.

Research indicates that the psoas is vital to our psychological wellbeing in addition to structural health. Liz Koch, author of The Psoas Book, states that our psoas “literally embodies our deepest urge for survival, and more profoundly, our elemental desire to flourish.” This means that there is a lot more to the psoas than one might initially think. It is entirely possible to harness healing pranic energy and improve mental health by keeping the psoas healthy.

Where is the Psoas?
The psoas is the principal muscle associated with physical stability. It stretches from the legs to the spine and is the only muscle connecting the legs to the spinal column. The muscle flares out from the T12 vertebrae, follows down the five lumbar vertebrae, before attaching to the top of the thigh bone.

The Reptilian Connection
In addition to connecting the legs and spine, the psoas is connected to the diaphragm. Breathing is modulated at the diaphragm, and it is also the location where many physical symptoms associated with fear and anxiety manifest. Koch believes that this is due to the direct link between the psoas and the most ancient part of our brain stem and spinal cord, called the reptilian brain.

According to Koch, “Long before the spoken word or the organizing capacity of the cortex developed, the reptilian brain, known for its survival instincts, maintained our essential core functioning.” The way we live today, constantly rushing, competing and achieving, has the psoas in a constant “fight or flight” state.

Issues Associated with Chronic Psoas Stress
Trapped in a constant “flight or fight” state, psoas muscles are stressed and constricted, almost from the time of birth. As Koch notes, “this situation is exacerbated by many things in our modern lifestyle, from car seats to constrictive clothing, from chairs to shoes that distort our posture, curtail our natural movements and further constrict our psoas.” This lifelong chronic stress put on the psoas can lead to many problems like back, hip, or knee pain, and even digestive issues and dysfunctional breathing. It could also be a major cause why people suffer from chronic physical pain.

The physical body is not the only part of you that suffers from a chronically-stressed psoas. The psoas is much more than a muscle used for structural stability. It influences every element of life, from how you feel, to how you look at the world, and even how you treat others. A variety of problems have been associated with a chronically-stressed psoas muscle: it can negatively affect your emotional state; it can impact your interpersonal relationships; and it can influence your general contentment with life. Awareness that a healthy psoas is important to emotional wellness, as well as physical health, is the first step towards ensuring that we give this muscle the attention it deserves.

Koch states, “Whether you suffer from sore back or anxiety, from knee strain or exhaustion, there’s a good chance that a constricted psoas might be contributing to your woes.”

Fear and the Psoas
Since the psoas is closely linked to our “fight or flight” mechanism, fear can be over-represented in those with a constricted psoas.

It is an emotion that manifests itself in the most unusual ways and can “lock” itself into the body resulting in both physical and emotional tension. By restoring balance to your psoas muscles, you are likely to release this pent up tension, which can have a profound effect on releasing unfounded fearfulness about life, and thus improve both your physical and mental wellbeing. You will feel a greater sense of inner peace, along with fewer muscle aches and strains.

The Connection to the Energetic Body
Lengthening and releasing your psoas grounds you to the Earth, which is filled with healing and revitalizing energy, thus allowing you to balance your pranic energy and enabling you to feel more present in the moment. Proper structural stability attributed to a healthy psoas allows prana to flow, unimpeded, throughout the body, allowing for proper distribution of vital energy. In the physical sense, when the body can properly support itself, movement is less-restricted and requires less effort, thus leaving you more energetic.

Ancient Wisdom for Modern Times
Our understanding of the psoas is by no means new knowledge. In fact, it is more akin to ancient wisdom that was either lost or discarded over time. Yoga shows us explicitly that ancient gurus understood the importance of releasing contracted psoas muscles. Ancient yoga asanas, or postures, that are now practiced all around the world, focus on lengthening and releasing psoas muscles and restoring comfort and balance to the entire body. With consistent practice, you can learn how to isolate this muscle, which can be immensely useful and healing in the long run.

Yoga is also a great way to measure the current health of the psoas. There are many postures, such as tree (Vrksasana), which cannot be properly achieved if the psoas is contracted. If you are practicing a sitting or standing yoga pose and feel strain in either your knees or lower back (or both), then there’s a good chance that your psoas is constricted and needs more of your attention.

The psoas is an important, yet often unknown, muscle that plays a vital role in physical health and mental well being. The cumulative effect of neglecting this muscle is physical and mental stress and tension, which manifests itself in our society as anxiety, depression, chronic back pain, knee pain, digestive distress, respiratory problems, etc.

Source:
The Psoas: Muscle of The Soul

What You Need to Know About Your Psoas

About the Authors

Anna Hunt is writer, yoga instructor, mother of three, and lover of healthy food. She’s the founder of Awareness Junkie, an online community paving the way for better health and personal transformation. She’s also the co-editor at Waking Times, where she writes about optimal health and wellness. Anna spent 6 years in Costa Rica as a teacher of Hatha and therapeutic yoga. She now teaches at Asheville Yoga Center and is pursuing her Yoga Therapy certification. During her free time, you’ll find her on the mat or in the kitchen, creating new kid-friendly superfood recipes.